HOW TO FIND INNER PEACE
How to find inner peace? If you have forgotten who you are and got lost, in this article you will find some useful tips and exercises to find serenity within you..
A person after a meditation session asked me: My days are always full of stressful events, how can I achieve inner peace in the frenzy of my daily life?
I replied: When you stop seeking peace, you will find true inner peace.
Sometimes doubt, sadness, even despair cross us in the dance of life. The best way is to let them in. Give it space.
Let life be a gigantic field on which every thought, sound, sensation, need, impulse and fantasy can reach us, stay for a bit, and leave again.
You can do it, let go of plans, expectations and allow life to be what it is: a space that embraces everything in the present moment, an immensity that allows everything, as the sky allows whether, as the sun shines on ” good ”and on the“ bad ”alike, without any distinction, giving its light freely to all.
Most of us caught up in the frenzy of our lives often forget how rooted we are in Being and connected with everything around you and negative thoughts, confusion, anger, depression, violence and conflict immediately arise. This just means that you have forgotten who you are and are lost.
Remembering the truth is easier than your mind makes you believe: I am not my thoughts, my emotions, my experiences. They are only temporary forms that run through me and that I recognize.
I am not the content of my life. I am Life, the space within which all things happen. I am here and now. I AM.
Here are some simple exercises to find inner peace and let go of worries and tensions in everyday life:
1 – PRACTICE MEDITATION EVERY DAY
The practice of meditation is beneficial for the body and mind and promotes personal growth, but to obtain benefits you need to be constant and meditate every day.
Practicing meditation does not mean eliminating thoughts, on the contrary, it means developing the ability to understand that our thoughts are only transitory mental events and therefore have nothing to do with the reality of this moment.
Any attempt to eliminate thoughts is a struggle against the mind that only adds to stress, so if you look at them for a moment, you accept them for who they are and return to your breath, this allows you to stop chasing all those negative thoughts that you come to judge as harmful, irrational or useless, without trying to block them, because you would get the opposite effect.
Below is a guided meditation to help you to find inner peace:
2 – NEVER WAIT!
The mind does not know the present moment, it works exclusively with the past and the future and the here and now becomes a means to an end or an obstacle or even worse an enemy.
Waiting is a crazy habit of our mind that only we humans have.
The queue at the checkout of a shop, a wait, a delay in public transport, a traffic jam, are all occasions that the mind considers boring and unimportant and therefore does nothing but continually produce thoughts that have nothing to do with. the present moment, but which often lead us into a state of aversion or confusion.
What we can do is to recognize these thoughts for a moment in the form they are (e.g. ideas, fragments, judgments, wishes, memories, etc.) without judging them, but with an open attitude towards them (as if we were a witness impartial who observes them for a moment and lets them flow without following them) returning to feel his own breath and the sensations of the body in the present moment.
3 – ACCEPTANCE – WHAT DOES IT MEAN?
Acceptance is the condition of those who see things as they are in the present moment. We waste much of the energy of our life in resisting what, in fact, is as it is. By forcing situations to be as we would like them to be, we generate additional tensions that hinder the healing process and positive change. By cultivating acceptance, we create the preliminary conditions for transformation, every change passes through the acceptance of oneself, as it is, here and now. But acceptance does not mean taking a passive attitude. Acceptance is our willingness to see things for what they are. Accepting here and now means having a clearer vision of how things are, without the veil of judgment, and sets the conditions for actively acting in the present moment in a way that is useful for our life.
Instead of complaining and creating resistance to situations, try asking yourself: ‘How can I act to improve my life starting from the total acceptance of myself of the forms that the present moment has taken?
With a mind free from resistance and attachment I am free to act on the basis of joy and intuition. In this way I do not seek peace or happiness but I find it in the inner freedom not to attack or oppose more to what has already manifested.
4 – GRATITUDE OPENS YOUR HEART
Gratitude equals full attention and awareness that allows you to welcome the moment as it is without the illusion of control and filters of the mind.
How often do you tend to ignore unpleasant emotions or feelings for fear of becoming vulnerable? Your need to express and receive love in this way is repressed.
If you want to gradually open your heart to gratitude you can do so by continually resorting to and admitting to yourself where you are vulnerable and accepting it fully.
This will then allow you to recognize all the good that is already in your life and create the foundations of abundance.
5 – EMBRACE YOUR EMOTIONS AND LET IT GO WITH THE MUSIC
None of us like to feel unpleasant emotions, so it is very common for us to suppress or avoid them. Unfortunately, this creates emotional repression. Here’s the thing: hiding your feelings isn’t the same as facing them. Just because your feelings temporarily disappear doesn’t mean they’re completely gone. In fact, the longer you suppress them, the more they grow. And the bigger these emotions become, the more you feel an extreme lack of inner peace.
By practicing a meditative listening to some pieces of music selected by a qualified Music Therapist, you can sit consciously and deeply listen to your emotions without resistance or judgment. If the judgments come, let them rise and fall. Although at first it can be very difficult to observe your emotions with detachment, you will thank yourself sincerely in the long term. Music in this case performs a ‘cathartic’ function by making the person totally in contact with their emotions and then feeling relieved and being able to re-emerge from their unpleasant state of mind.